First Important Lesson - Cleaning Lady.
During my second month of college, our professor gave us a pop quiz. I was a conscientious student and had breezed through the questions until I read the last one: 'What is the first name of the woman who cleans the school?' Surely this was some kind of joke. I had seen the cleaning woman several times. She was tall, dark-haired and in her 50s, but how would I know her name? I handed in my paper, leaving the last question blank. Just before class ended, one student asked if the last question would count toward our quiz grade. 'Absolutely,' said the professor. 'In your careers, you will meet many people. All are significant. They deserve your attention and care, even if all you do is smile and say 'hello.' I've never forgotten that lesson. I also learned her name was Dorothy.
Second Important Lesson - Pickup in the Rain One night
at 11:30 p.m., an elderly African-American woman was standing on the side of an Alabama highway trying to endure a lashing rainstorm. Her car had broken down and she desperately needed a ride. Soaking wet, she decided to flag down the next car. A young white man stopped to help her, generally unheard of in those conflict-filled 60s... The man took her to safety, helped her get assistance and put her into a taxicab. She seemed to be in a big hurry, but wrote down his address and thanked him. Seven days went by and a knock came on the man's door. To his surprise, a giant console color TV was delivered to his home. A special note was attached... It read: 'Thank you so much for assisting me on the highway the other night. The rain drenched not only my clothes, but also my spirits. Then you came along. Because of you, I was able to make it to my dying husband's bedside just before he passed away... God bless you for helping me and unselfishly serving others.' Sincerely, Mrs. Nat King Cole.
Third Important Lesson - Always remember those who serve.
In the days when an ice cream sundae cost much less, a 10-year-old boy entered a hotel coffee shop and sat at a table. A waitress put a glass of water in front of him. 'How much is an ice cream sundae?' he asked. 'Fifty cents,' replied the waitress. The little boy pulled is hand out of his pocket and studied the coins in it. 'Well, how much is a plain dish of ice cream?' he inquired. By now more people were waiting for a table and the waitress was growing impatient. 'Thirty-five cents,' she brusquely replied. The little boy again counted his coins. 'I'll have the plain ice cream,' he said. The waitress brought the ice cream, put the bill on the table and walked away. The boy finished the ice cream, paid the cashier and left. When the waitress came back, she began to cry as she wiped down the table. There, placed neatly beside the empty dish, were two nickels and five pennies... You see, he couldn't have the sundae, because he had to have enough left to leave her a tip.
Fourth Important Lesson. - The obstacle in Our Path.
In ancient times, a king had a boulder placed on a roadway. Then he hid himself and watched to see if anyone would remove the huge rock. Some of the king's wealthiest merchants and courtiers came by and simply walked around it. Many loudly blamed the king for not keeping the roads clear, but none did anything about getting the stone out of the way. Then a peasant came along carrying a load of vegetables. Upon approaching the boulder, the peasant laid down his burden and tried to move the stone to the s ide of the road. After much pushing and straining, he finally succeeded. After the peasant picked up his load of vegetables, he noticed a purse lying in the road where the boulder had been. The purse contained many gold coins and a note from the king indicating that the gold was for the person who removed the boulder from the roadway. The peasant learned what many of us never understand! Every obstacle presents an opportunity to improve our condition.
Fifth Important Lesson - Giving When it Counts...
Many years ago, when I worked as a volunteer at a hospital, I got to know a little girl named Liz who was suffering from a rare & serious disease. Her only chance of recovery appeared to be a blood transfusion from her 5-year old brother, who had miraculously survived the same disease and had developed the antibodies needed to combat the illness. The doctor explained the situation to her little brother, and asked the little boy if he would be willing to give his blood to his sister. I saw him hesitate for only a moment before taking a deep breath and saying, 'Yes I'll do it if it will save her.' As the transfusion progressed, he lay in bed next to his sister and smiled, as we all did, seeing the color returning to her cheek. Then his face grew pale and his smile faded. He looked up at the doctor and asked with a trembling voice, 'Will I start to die right away'. Being young, the little boy had misunderstood the doctor; he thought he was going to have to give his sister all of his blood in order to save her.
Monday, March 30, 2009
Friday, March 27, 2009
Title: What should I do to marry a rich guy?
I'm going to be honest of what I'm going to say here. I'm 25 this year. I'm very pretty, have style and good taste. I wish to marry a guy with $500k annual salary or above. You might say that I'm greedy,but an annual salary of $1M is considered only as middle class in NewYork. My requirement is not high. Is there anyone in this forum who has an income of $500k annual salary? Are you all married? I wanted to ask:
what should I do to marry rich persons like you? Among thoseI've dated, the richest is $250k annual income, and it seems that this is my upper limit. If someone is going to move into high cost residential area on the west of New York City Garden (?), $250k annual income is not enough.I'm here humbly to ask a few questions:
1)Where do most rich bachelors hang out? (Please list downthe names and addresses of bars, restaurant, gym)
2)Which age group should I target?
3)Why most wives of the riches is only average-looking?I've met a few girls who doesn 't have looks and are not interesting, but they are able to marry rich guys
4)How do you decide who can be your wife, and who can only be your girlfriend? (my target now is to get married)
Here's a reply from a Wall Street Financial guy:
Dear Ms. Pretty, I have read your post with great interest. Guess there are lots of girls out there who have similar questions like yours. Please allow me to analyze your situation as a professional investor. My annual income is more than $500k, which meets your requirement, so I hope everyone believes that I'm not wasting time here. From the stand point of a business person, it is a bad decision to marry you. The answer is very simple, so let me explain. Put the details aside, what you're trying to do is an exchange of "beauty"and "money": Person A provides beauty, and Person B pays for it, fair and square. However, there's a deadly problem here, your beauty will fade, but my money will not be gone without any good reason.
The fact is, my income might increase from year to year, but you can't be prettier year after year. Hence from the view point of economics, I am an appreciation asset, and you are a depreciation asset. It's not just normal depreciation, but exponential depreciation. If that is your only asset, your value will be much worried 10 years later. By the terms we use in Wall Street, every trading has a position, dating with you is also a "trading position". If the trade value dropped we will sell it and it is not a good idea to keep it for long term - same goes with the marriage that you wanted. It might be cruel to say this, but in order to make a wiser decision any assets with great depreciation value will be sold or "leased".
Anyone with over $500k annual income is not a fool; we would only date you, but will not marry you. I would advice that you forget looking for any clues to marry a rich guy. And by the way, you could make yourself to become a rich person with $500k annual income. This has better chance than finding a rich fool. Hope this reply helps. If you are interested in "leasing" services, do contact me.
Thursday, March 19, 2009
Sebelum hubungan cinta pergi lebih jauh, renungkan perkara berikut.
* Dia asyik merenung dada dan punggung anda lebih daripada 10 kali setiap 10 minit (mmg miang daun keladi..cait)
* Daripada ceritanya kepada anda, jelas dia kaki joli dan kaki makan angin. Sudahlah begitu, daripada banyak tempat pelancongan dan percutian di dunia katanya, dia paling suka ke Thailand (mendalam makna thailand tuh).
* Apabila dia beritahu anda, isterinya tidak pernah memahaminya atau tidak pernah menjaga kebajikannya dan tidak pernah menghargainya sebagai suami, rupa-rupanya si isteri sedang sarat mengandung - anak ke sembilan! (hmmm...bole thn..).
* Anda perasan biji matanya macam hendak terjojol keluar apabila melihat semua wanita cantik, manis atau seksi, tidak keterlaluan jika dikatakan dia memang seorang yang menyakitkan dan tidak tahu menjaga perasaan (mata basketball).
* Dia mula menceritakan kesempitan wang dan menagih simpati anda supaya membantunya. Awas! Lelaki sebegini akan menjadikan anda mesin ATMnya! (bgtau dia kite takde akaun bank!! kais pg mkn pagi..)
* Tangannya mula miang-miang mahu pegang tangan dan pinggang anda walaupun baru satu jam anda berkenalan dengannya (tunjuk wajh ala2 singa kt dia..gataii..)
* Dia beritahu yang dia sebenarnya, bukannya ada hati dan hendak sangat bertemu janji dengan anda tetapi buat juga kerana kasihan sedangkan anda yang beria-ia sangat mahu menemuinya (xyah jumpe trus..cam terhegeh2 plak kite).
* Kawan-kawan anda yang mengenalinya memberitahu, dia menghidap penyakit kelamin kronik. (hmm..elakkan. merbahaya utk kesihatan dalaman anda. hehe)
* Dia langsung tidak beri peluang anda bercerita mengenai diri anda ataupun keluarga kerana dia rasa cerita mengenai keluarganya lebih menarik dan penting (selfish la gini..).
* Apabila anda pesan minuman ringan, dia pula memesan minuman beralkohol. Tentunya lelaki sebegitu kurang sesuai sebagai Muslim (mmg takleh wat laki...chow..)
* Apabila bercakap, kata-katanya umpama tin kosong konon bapanya saudagar minyak dan datuknya orang paling kaya di Sarawak tetapi bila bil makan sampai, dia buat tidak tahu saja. Anda juga yang terkorek-korek mencari duit dalam tas tangan (byr yg kita sorang je.huhu).
* Dia beritahu yang hatinya sangat terluka dan dia masih lagi bersedih kerana putus cinta dengan gadis hamil anak luar nikahnya. Apakah anda terus membuang masa bersamanya? Kalau anda seorang rasional, mengapa masih terus mahu bersama dirinya? (senyum..pastu tinggl kan dia).
* Dia kata yang dia impikan seorang isteri yang taat setia dan rela menjadi suri rumah sepenuh masa. Tetapi daripada apa yang anda faham dia sebenarnya mahu mencari tukang masak, tukang cuci, tukang kemas, tukang gosok, tukang picit atau tukang sental, pendek kata semuanya tukang-tukang yang hebat (bgtau dia kita pun nk suami yg ada ciri2 cenggitu jgk..hehe).
Masihkah anda menyimpan hati pada lelaki sedemikian? Tidak salah sekiranya anda bertindak awal meninggalkannya tanpa ucapan.
Wednesday, March 18, 2009
Tuesday, March 17, 2009
There are times within a relationship where problems may arise, or things don't turn out to be like they were expected. If you're going to hurt someone by breaking up with them, you might as well do it in a mature and civil manner. One of the main factors that can be credited to the reason that people break up is someone in the relationship losing their feelings.
Before you should EVER consider breaking up with someone, you should be absolutely certain that breaking up is what you want to do. It needs to be realized that once you hurt someone by breaking up with them, any future relationship with this person is going to be very difficult. Look at it as if once you break up with your partner, that you will never get the chance to date them again.
Do not simply leave your partner in a position where they feel abandoned. This will make things much more difficult for them. You need to give that person closure; it's not fair to them that they should suffer for your actions. This is true, unless your partner did something within the relationship that you could certainly justify you breaking up with them. Be sure to plan the breakup, it would be terrible to finally make the move, then do it in the worst way possible. Look for ways to making the breakup with the least amount of emotional pain as possible. Plan where you intend to make the breakup, and not on the internet or over the phone. Breaking up while not in person shows a tremendous level of disrespect, and will only make things worse.
Be ready to give a reason, there isn't a person on the planet who wouldn't ask for one. The point is to be honest, not immature or disrespectful. You are breaking up with them, so you can at least give them the reason why. Be sure that you're reasoning is clear, not that you just say something vague, if you are serious about breaking up, which you should be, then tell the truth. Don't go off and tell them things that catalyzed it, like insults or opinions.
Once it is done, try not to be around that person. The point being that if you tend to be around them, look at it like you are doing nothing less than torturing them. Allow them to come to you to be friends again, all because you were okay with what happened doesn't mean that your ex is.
Be honest and truthful, because it will greatly assist you in the long run. And be sure to have respect for the person you broke up with. The best way to look at it is to think how you would want it to happen.
p/s : however or whatever plan to make it least emotional or least hurt as possible, break a relationship just because 'no feeling' itself make it the worst feeling to other side. Please do not easily make a relationship if u are not sure about yur feeling. Don't be a player...you breake someone's HEART.
The pain of a broken heart is unlike any other pain. It is a deep emotional wound, a blunt-force blow to the very core of the human psyche and frankly put, it sucks! So what can you do to make the pain go away? There is no quick fix but rest assured that the old adage of time healing all wounds holds extra true for wounds to the heart. In time the pain of heartbreak will stop. In the meantime these five little tips should help soften the blow.
Distraction, distraction, distraction!
That’s right, distract yourself as much as possible. Out of sight, out of mind, inner plight, fill your time! Make yourself busy so that you can’t focus on your loss. Just make sure you busy yourself with productive activities like exercise, friend-time and focusing on school or work. Don’t get self destructive and at all costs avoid excess of any kind.
Cry it out as much as needed.
This is no time to put on a brave face. Your heart is broken, you’re wrought with disappointment and loss, it’s A-O-K to cry a lot. Just make sure that you cry in a private place, no PDAs (Public Displays of Affliction) and if you can’t handle being alone only cry in the company of someone close to you whom you know you can trust.
Put on your favorite song, something upbeat or even angry in tone, no sappy love songs allowed! Make sure it has a good beat and a sound that gets you moving. Then get up off your sad butt and dance around. Be silly, be funky, sing along at the top of your lungs, have fun with it. It sounds crazy, and it will look crazy to other people, but getting your real heart beating this way will do wonders for your proverbial broken one.
Talk about your feelings with a friend... for a time.
Talking is an excellent way to cleanse your soul and ease your mind. Pick a close and trusted friend and ask them in advance to listen to you vent whenever needed. Warn them that they may get sick of listening to you say the same things over and over but that you really need their help. A good friend will be there for you. Then set a mental deadline in your head, 2-3 weeks is a good one but when coping with the loss of a more serious or long term relationship you may require a bit more time, and once you’ve reached that deadline cease and desist all talk of the matter.
Visualize your future, block out the past.
You need to stop living in the past and focus on the future. People who are dealing with a break up tend to play over past events in their head ad nauseum. This behavior is normal and healthy in the early days of a break up but it can quickly become a dangerous and defeatist coping strategy. So after the first couple of days have passed you need to forget the past, good and bad, and look to the future. Think about all the positive ways your life will change; more time for friends, pursuing old hobbies that had been put aside or taking up new ones, and having more you time are all good focal points. When you think of your future do not think of anything that has happened as a loss but try to view it as an opportunity for change. You don’t need to bury your past forever, just for now, and when you can think of the past and smile you’ll know that you’re well on your way to being healed.
Sunday, March 08, 2009
Most of us were lack of confidence when the time come for us to expose ourselves. Actually you also want to be glamour, to be seen, to be known and to be appreciated just like 'them' but what can you do...if you just afraid to do something. Then, this are the steps on How To Convince Yourself That U Can Do Something :
a) Imagine yourself doing what it is you want to do. Dream of the possibilities. What wonderful outcomes could result from your action? Be POSITIVE
b) Tell yourself what you want to hear. If you want to try out for Mencari Cinta, Pencarian Gadis Melayu or whatsoever look in the mirror and tell yourself everything that's beautiful about yourself. If you are about to participate in a math competition, tell yourself how smart you are.
c) Think incessantly about it. Never give yourself a break until the curiosity almost sends you in the way of the cat. You will NEVER find out what could have happened if you don't just get off your E-Z Chair and face the world like a man. (Or woman.)
d) Look good. Even if you just want to draw a rather difficult scene in the confines of your home, brush your hair, take a shower, get dressed up if you want. When you look your best, you feel your best. (This is not optional for social situations.)
e) Listen to energizing or uplifting music. Set the mood for the daring deed you are about to accomplish.
f) If its something physical, right before you do it, let all of your stress and anger loose. Your strength will at least double. Also, if you allow yourself to enter an enraged state, it will unearth unbelievable strength, speed, and endurance. You wont even feel pain.
so...wish you luck and all the best guys.
Wednesday, March 04, 2009
Pastu isnin...kakak call ckp kak ipar da bersalin..means ank sedara da bertambh. Tp ada berita tak baik sbb baby lemas...so keadaan kritikal dlm incubator. Kak ipar (k.na) mmg sgt nk ank perempuan....sgt gembira bila tau baby girl sbb da ada 4 sons. Ujian Allah bg utk dia..bila dpt baby girl ada masalh. nsib baik k.na mmg kuat orgnye. Harp baby cepat2 sihat, xsabar nk tgk..ntah bile leh balik kg. Sihat la ye baby...nnti mokpah beli baju pink.
Cinta tak kenal batasan.
Ini semalam punye story...slasa. Borak2 ngn student (chinese) pada awalnye crita psl keje dan PTPTN sahaja..ntah camana tbe2 dia terbagtau yg dia ada awek melayu n masih belajar dkt UPM. I thought he was just joking with his frend (sorang lg student borak sama) tp yg sebenarnya betul. Dia sgt series dan betul2 tahu apa yg dia inginkan wpun pada mulanya susah nk convincekan aku yg dia series. Finally tunjuk gambar awek dia...manis..bertudung. Kawan dr sekolah lg (sudah lama). Dia ckp tak tau camana boleh jatuh hati kt perempuan melayu tu. Dan aku sgt kagum dengan kesetiaan dia kt gadis tu...
"Bg saya cinta tak mengenal batasan". Itu ayat dia. Sekarang dia sudh membeli beberapa buku agama Islam utk dipelajari cuma dia masih takut dengan family (masih blom tau). Aku dgn sgt berbesar hati ambil peluang utk bg dorongan kt dia...bg nasihat supaya dia lebh faham. Perempuan (awek dia) byk bg pendedahan psl Islam dan dia ckp awek dia sentiasa mendoakan supaya takde masalah dari familly dia nnti. Insyaallah. Mudah2an Allah bukakan hati keseluruhan. Aku pun turut doakan yg baik2 je.