Never let yurself love somebody's husband

Salam

Ntah naper tetiba rase nk pesan kt smua perempuan kt malaysia ni agar diorang tak tersalah lngkah to love or terlove husband org. Penah terbaca dlm majalh (motivasi dr. Tuah) yg sorang perempuan, married woman go to see dr Tuah to tell him her problem about her being fall in love with somebody's husband. Isteri org jatuh cinta kt husband org...Bermula as a friend an then both of them falling in love with each other. Dalam hati aku... Asalla wife org ni gatal lg kt org lain. Husband org ni pun satu..miang. Cait...

And it reminds me about my good friend, nearly 11 years we have been together as a good friend. 1 day she told me that her bf is somebody's husband with 3 sons if I not mistaken. The problem is she didn't knew that the guy has been married until that day. So...I cannot blame her for having scandal with somebody's husband. And from that day I became a 'kaunselor xterlatih' for her. Slalu call aku n nangis sbb xdpt lupakan that guy. Dia mau lupakan lelaki tu tp bile da rase sayang susah nk buang. While that guy sedaya upaya nk teruskan hubungan siap ajak kawen n sudah mintak permisi wife dia untuk tambah cawangan. My friend ask me ok tak kalo jd wife no. 2...haha. aku pun blur2 nk jwb soklan tu tp dgn susah pyh aku cube cr fakta2 kukuh supaya dia tak suke laki tu. dalam hati aku rase nk pegi jumpe laki tu n nak 'lempang'je dia. Alhamdulillah, at last kawan aku berterima kasih kt aku sbb aku btul2 tarik dia dr laki tu. hehe...dia kata kalo takde support dia mmg fail or mybe trima laki tu.

At that time, I cannot understand why my friend still love that guy after she knew that he lied to her about his status. If it was me, I thought I will hate that guy on that time I knew. But now as time passes, my thinking also change (maybe sbb da makin tua kot)....bukan senang nak buang org yg da kita syg. Disadvantage cinta 3 segi ngan husband org ni akan byk kesannya pada org ke-3. Why...?
1) Kecewa sbb kena tipu bila tibe2 wife dia call tanya apa hubungan kita ngn husband dia.
sakit jantung kjap...ye dak. Ataupun sampai satu tahap dia sndiri mengaku sudah beristeri.
2) Kemungkinan besarla akan jd enemy seumur hidup oleh wife dia. haha...sementara dia
rileksje sbb wife xberani nk marah dia.
3) Sometimes bile 3rd party ni nk luahkan perasaan pasal kes ni...ramai org akan ckp,
"itula..sape suh cr pasal ngn husband org". " Yg ko nk layn tu knape bile da tau husband org".
100% hanye 3rd party akn dipersalahkan. huhu...pendam jela sorang2.
4) Melawan perasaan rindu..benci..kecewa...bla bla bla. Masa je la mampu merawat..heh.
5) Sedangkan kebanykan husband org ni hanyela main2 je...saje nak buang masa n hilangkan
boring. nk tambahkan rempah dlm hidup dia...dia sendiri pun sebenarnya takut wife.
Kebanyakan kes mcm ni rasenya dsebabkan sikap selfish kaum laki.

So gadis2, anak2 dara, janda whatever pun...be careful. Don't let yurself fall in love with someone's husband. kalo da jodoh jd madu nk wat ganer kan..tp kalo boleh elak untuk kebaikan elakkanlah. Bile da terlove husband org n mau melupakan dia, cuba ni :
1) Every day convince yurself that u will never love someone's husband. "Aku tak suka dia".
" Ksian wife dia kalo aku suke dia". "Tak sampai mana pun suke laki org ni". pk la ape2 yg
patut sbb pakar motivasi kata kita akn jd apa yg kita pk. hehe...lama2 perasaan tu hilng.
2) Stop telling yur friend about him except if they asked you. Close the story about him n kita
sndiri pun akn kurang tringt dia. xperlu luahkan prasaan slalu kt org. Be natural...
3) Cari sebanyk mana perkara yg kita bnci ada kt diri dia. Kalo xdapat cari...create sndiri bnda
yg kita benci tu dr sikap2 dia yg kita kenal.
4) Just imagine him like lelaki2 yang kita tak suka. selfish...gatal...lemau...hehe.

Cukupla tu kot...hopefully this petua can 'reduce' yur feeling to him or 'demolish' the feeling at all. oklah...aku pun dah rase sgt lega n ringan kepala after write this blog. Good for me. haha